Charley
Savannah Super Cat
I know there is a ton of information out there about this subject and likely a lot of threads about this here. I don't mean to be redundant and I already have two awesome breeders to talk to about this who've been supportive and very helpful, I'm just posting here in hopes of hearing more stories and information. I think the more people you can talk to and the more scenarios you can hear about the better.
Here is where we are today. Anecdotes, advice and encouragement welcome.
I have an almost 3 year old F7SBT Jengo and we just got an 1 year old F5B - Wiggles is his name for now. Jengo has always been a very shy and extremely skittish cat. He really has only bonded to me. For the first year and a half he wouldn't come out of hiding unless guests were here long enough that he needed to eat. Over the last 6 months or so he will finally come out but no one should try to pet him or play with him. Jengo and I spend 24/7 together most of the time. He is okay with my boyfriend, sleeps int he bed with us and if he has to will cuddle with my bf at night. He recently started stress eating which doesn't always include food. This is when we realized he really needs a mate. Everyone told us that buddy would make him feel better.
Saturday - so 5 days ago I purchased Wiggles. Wiggle is very social, friendly and playful. Because he is Wiggles the two cats have met. They saw each other during the delivery process of Wiggles to his room in which Jengo just ran and hid all puffed up.
Saturday Night - Wiggles escapes, they meet Jengo is cornered he hisses and yowls, Wiggles returns the same, Jengo hisses and yowls again - Wiggles backs off.
Sunday - Friends over - Wiggles gets out - Jengo watches, doesn't hiss only observes. We let Wiggles run around. Wiggles finds Jengo - hisses are exchanged, Wiggles backs down
Monday - same thing Wiggles gets out, hisses are exchanged Wiggles backs down.
Tuesday - Wiggles runs into Jengo's room - see the pattern here - He slips out and looks for Jengo. I am hesitant to intervene when they've made eye contact for fear of spooking either of them or enforcing something bad, They nose bump - chasing - Jengo ends on the fridge. Wiggles gets put away
Wednesday - We bring Wiggles out on a leash so that Jengo sees he is contained. Wiggles walks around having a great time. We play with a toy with him and invite Jengo to play. He doesn't want to so I try to put the toy near Jengo so he can get it and Wiggles goes after it, Jengo hisses, Wiggles backs away and if the toy gets in Jengo's domain Wiggles waits patiently. Jengo makes his way to his safe spot on the fridge. All is well. Feeding everyone treats. Jengo won't eat the treats - he never, ever does when he is upset. I cannot ever bribe him with food. Jengo gets curious comes down to play, gets cornered he hisses and yowls and Wiggles returns the same - Jengo gets louder and then Wiggles chases Jengo around the house then tries to go at him through the curtain.
Thursday - today. Wiggles escaped once - no contact between the cats. Wiggles is crying in his room - it's heartbreaking. Jengo will not go anywhere near the door. I sprayed Feliway between the rooms and on our bed, I rubbed a sock on Wiggles then rubbed it on Jengo. I spend much of the day with Jengo, playing and feeding him treats as he gets close to Wiggles's room which by close I meant atleast 10 feet away. I play with him the room directly across from Wiggles - but Wiggles is still locked away. I check on Wiggles every couple of hours spend 20-30 minutes with him, playing and loving. Come down immediately let Jengo smell my hand ad if he's okay I pet him.
I think Wiggles might be getting a wee aggressive but then again Jengo is hissing so at any rate there are no sides to pick. I have been loving Jengo lots, playing with him lots, giving him extra privileges and access to places in the house he normally is not allowed. Extra treats, his favorite food, bought him a replacement of his favorite toy. He knows he's loved.
I know this takes time but I am worried I've already messed up and am the worst cat owner ever. I am so scared they are never going to like each other and I'm afraid I've made a huge mistake which just made them both unhappy and it breaks my heart.
Thoughts?
Here is where we are today. Anecdotes, advice and encouragement welcome.
I have an almost 3 year old F7SBT Jengo and we just got an 1 year old F5B - Wiggles is his name for now. Jengo has always been a very shy and extremely skittish cat. He really has only bonded to me. For the first year and a half he wouldn't come out of hiding unless guests were here long enough that he needed to eat. Over the last 6 months or so he will finally come out but no one should try to pet him or play with him. Jengo and I spend 24/7 together most of the time. He is okay with my boyfriend, sleeps int he bed with us and if he has to will cuddle with my bf at night. He recently started stress eating which doesn't always include food. This is when we realized he really needs a mate. Everyone told us that buddy would make him feel better.
Saturday - so 5 days ago I purchased Wiggles. Wiggle is very social, friendly and playful. Because he is Wiggles the two cats have met. They saw each other during the delivery process of Wiggles to his room in which Jengo just ran and hid all puffed up.
Saturday Night - Wiggles escapes, they meet Jengo is cornered he hisses and yowls, Wiggles returns the same, Jengo hisses and yowls again - Wiggles backs off.
Sunday - Friends over - Wiggles gets out - Jengo watches, doesn't hiss only observes. We let Wiggles run around. Wiggles finds Jengo - hisses are exchanged, Wiggles backs down
Monday - same thing Wiggles gets out, hisses are exchanged Wiggles backs down.
Tuesday - Wiggles runs into Jengo's room - see the pattern here - He slips out and looks for Jengo. I am hesitant to intervene when they've made eye contact for fear of spooking either of them or enforcing something bad, They nose bump - chasing - Jengo ends on the fridge. Wiggles gets put away
Wednesday - We bring Wiggles out on a leash so that Jengo sees he is contained. Wiggles walks around having a great time. We play with a toy with him and invite Jengo to play. He doesn't want to so I try to put the toy near Jengo so he can get it and Wiggles goes after it, Jengo hisses, Wiggles backs away and if the toy gets in Jengo's domain Wiggles waits patiently. Jengo makes his way to his safe spot on the fridge. All is well. Feeding everyone treats. Jengo won't eat the treats - he never, ever does when he is upset. I cannot ever bribe him with food. Jengo gets curious comes down to play, gets cornered he hisses and yowls and Wiggles returns the same - Jengo gets louder and then Wiggles chases Jengo around the house then tries to go at him through the curtain.
Thursday - today. Wiggles escaped once - no contact between the cats. Wiggles is crying in his room - it's heartbreaking. Jengo will not go anywhere near the door. I sprayed Feliway between the rooms and on our bed, I rubbed a sock on Wiggles then rubbed it on Jengo. I spend much of the day with Jengo, playing and feeding him treats as he gets close to Wiggles's room which by close I meant atleast 10 feet away. I play with him the room directly across from Wiggles - but Wiggles is still locked away. I check on Wiggles every couple of hours spend 20-30 minutes with him, playing and loving. Come down immediately let Jengo smell my hand ad if he's okay I pet him.
I think Wiggles might be getting a wee aggressive but then again Jengo is hissing so at any rate there are no sides to pick. I have been loving Jengo lots, playing with him lots, giving him extra privileges and access to places in the house he normally is not allowed. Extra treats, his favorite food, bought him a replacement of his favorite toy. He knows he's loved.
I know this takes time but I am worried I've already messed up and am the worst cat owner ever. I am so scared they are never going to like each other and I'm afraid I've made a huge mistake which just made them both unhappy and it breaks my heart.
Thoughts?