Animal Communication

[Wyldthingz]

I thought you had said that he was having peeing issues even prior to getting Duma?

 

[Dantes]

I thought you had said that he was having peeing issues even prior to getting Duma?

Yes and no. Complicated story. He had symptoms of a UTI just prior to a 4-month trip to DC. He had no problems when in DC. The problems started again a few weeks home from DC, shortly before I got Duma, but at that point I still assumed it was a UTI flare up. A behavioral issue hadn't crossed my mind at that point.

 

[Wyldthingz]

Still he had issues even when he was an only cat with you. It could have been a reaction to the other cats he would see outside. That is maybe why he wanted to go outside- to dominate them? Cats will have marking behaviors with cats that they see, they don't need to be in close proximity. My neutered Siberian likes to pick on my young boys nearing adulthood. He will mark in the house at times as well and mount my girls in season. Some just are that way.

 

[Dantes]

Thanks, Kelly--yes, that is possible. At one point we even thought that maybe he thought the squirrels (who like to hide in the chimney) were cats trying to get in the house.

Unfortunately, he has been rehomed, and it is successful, and there is nothing I can do. I cried for three days straight and then another week intermittently, because I felt like we were narrowing in on a breakthrough for him when his new mom appeared. It's entirely possible that it is any of these things, but it's also possible that it was me and my stress, or the other two cats, or he just didn't like any of us. It's also possible that he would've done this to me for the next 10-15 years.

The thing is I can't really second guess at this point. Maybe I made a huge mistake and I should go to her house and demand my baby back, but is that really fair either? What's done is done, and I have to move on, even if it's just so that I don't start crying again.

 

[Kristin]

Don't second guess yourself. You did what you did in the best interest of your family. His new mom arrived at the right time...you just have to trust that. Second guessing won't get you anywhere

 

[Dantes]

Don't second guess yourself. You did what you did in the best interest of your family. His new mom arrived at the right time...you just have to trust that. Second guessing won't get you anywhere

Thanks for that, Kristin.

Kelly, I really hope you don't regret trusting Duma with me. He is an amazing little boy. So smart, so beautiful, and always the best behaved. I know it's hard to hear that I rehomed Dante because then I'd probably do the same thing with Duma, right? But I wouldn't, and I don't have anything more than my word to offer you on that, and my word is probably crap now, but I don't know what else to do. I'm really not a reckless, irresponsible, inconsiderate person deep down, but I did make a horrible mistake. I'm really sorry I posted all this here in public, but I can't do anything about that now except apologize to you, and to Duma and Dante. I messed things up for my boys and I'm sorry. I hope to do better going forward.

 

[Patti]

You know what? Sometimes the most selfless and brave thing you can do is admit that you cannot provide the perfect home for a pet and that there might be something better suited for them somewhere else. You absolutely did the right thing - the fact that Dante has not had any issues in his new home attests to that fact. This absolutely bears no reflection on your relationship with Duma, nor should you try to draw a correlation between the two of them, because each animal is an individual with unique needs and behaviors. You are a wonderful mom to Duma, and you found the ideal home for Dantes - I can certainly find no fault in this.

 

[Dantes]

Thanks, Patti. I do appreciate the kind words.

I guess my point was to acknowledge how Kelly might feel about it. Even though I know deep down that I ultimately made the best choice I could at that moment.

 

[Trish Allearz]

Trust me, we all wantwhat is best for our babies. Sometimes that means they don't stay in their original home. Like mojo! but he's happier now and that's what counts.

Sent from my so called smartphone so all typos and bad advice can be blamed on said "smart" phone

 

[Eddies]

Mojo & I send our love...I've "kept" my sisters dog for 5 years & she came & got him a week ago, even knowing the situation is "perfect" grieving is inevitable.