Animal Communication

[Kristin]

@Dantes Do you have an email I can reach you at? I have a couple more questions...I tried the way Penelope Smith wrote about

 

[Dantes]

@Kristin just sent you an email, hope you got it! (now where is the one for pee? lol)

For those keeping score, Dante is back in timeout for peeing on my bed again (this dummy here forgot to put the waterproof cover over the bed, and the stinker seems to know whether he can pee on the spot I sleep on or not).

 

[Patti]

@Dantes I had a cat that would pee on my bed almost every day. It took about a year of keeping a tarp over the bed to finally cure him once and for all. Of course, I also cleaned the mattress thoroughly. I now have a waterproof mattress pad on all of the beds, just in case... No one has resumed peeing, but someone does throw up every once in a while, and it is so much easier to clean up!

 

[Dantes]

@Patti, thanks, I appreciate the insight, but when the bed is covered, he pees on my dirty clothes. If they are not available, he picks the last thing I sat on (usually the sofa). While I agree about the element of going back to something he's already peed on, there are deeper forces at work here. The dirty clothes he may or may not have peed on previously, and I've thrown away soooo many laundry baskets in the last year, and I also spray enzyme cleaner Anti Icky Poo and Zero Odor and deep wash everything with Dead Down Wind, Oxyclean and vinegar. The bed has a waterproof blanket, and I cover the sofa with one too, but he usually removes it.

When you combine the peeing with his attitude towards the other cats, not to mention his attitude toward me, and his little bipolar fits, he is clearly sending a message of dominance, and being unhappy with the other cats (or some combination thereof). I've tried everything else, this is the only idea I have left

 

[Patti]

Sorry, my intention was not to belittle your situation, just sharing my own experience which eventually did work itself out with time and patience. Time out is perfectly appropriate - if you think about it, breeders with intact spraying cats confine them similarly - it doesn't punish the cat (as long as they are provided with some enrichment) but gives you control over the situation. Of course I understand that this is not the life you wanted for your pet so understand your frustration...

 

[Dantes]

Sorry, my intention was not to belittle your situation, just sharing my own experience which eventually did work itself out with time and patience. Time out is perfectly appropriate - if you think about it, breeders with intact spraying cats confine them similarly - it doesn't punish the cat (as long as they are provided with some enrichment) but gives you control over the situation. Of course I understand that this is not the life you wanted for your pet so understand your frustration...

Thanks Patti, I know you didn't mean it that way at all! I would've probably given the same advice to someone in my situation, and someone else reading this thread may still benefit from your advice. I've been through a lot with this guy, sometimes thinking I'd gotten it fixed just to find out that it wasn't. I've done the physical troubleshooting with multiple vets (and a lot of $$$$) and all the usual, it boggles my mind that this hasn't yet been solved. That's why I think my cat lady friend is right, he might need a new home to be happy. But then how to rehome a known problem peer? The whole thing just sux.

 

[Patti]

Having read through some of your previous posts, I wonder if his issues would resolve if he is an only cat. Clearly if you rehome him he will need to go somewhere with someone well aware of his problems and willing to work with him.

 

[Dantes]

Clearly if you rehome him he will need to go somewhere with someone well aware of his problems and willing to work with him.

Yes, this is why it's taking so long to rehome him, I can't rehome him long distance, it has to be someone nearby in case the problem doesn't resolve, I don't want someone else stuck with a cat that pees everywhere, or with a problem they can't otherwise solve. As much as I would not like to have a cat peeing all over my house and clothes, I would be *very* upset if he ended up in a shelter or worse.

Having read through some of your previous posts, I wonder if his issues would resolve if he is an only cat.

I'm just curious what you mean by this, in the sense that maybe there's something I've written that I'm not seeing. The only reason why I think *maybe* rehoming might solve the problem is that back in 2011/2012 I had to move across the country into a hotel for 6 months and ended up giving my foster cat to someone else to take care of. The pee problem had started only a few weeks before I left to go the hotel, didn't happen at all while we were at the hotel (and Dante was an only cat for that time), and then resumed within a week or two when we returned home. When we got home, I went to bring my foster cat home but my friend, an elderly lady, had fallen in love with him and I couldn't bear to take him away from her. A few months later I got Duma, mistakenly thinking that maybe Dante was missing Sammy.

Looking back at this, I wonder if it's something about my house/apartment? Not much I can do about it, but I wonder....

 

[Wyldthingz]

I have found an excellent animal communicator that may help if it is behavioral if you want to message me privately.

 

[Bekki]

I'm curious what you can get out of my bun breña I think I already know her problem. But perhaps you can tell me something new. She hates when I pet her, she gives me this dumbfounded look when I feed her snacks. Kind of like " human don't touch me I keep you around to feed me isn't that good enough for you" lol. She is a little more on the skittish side, shy unless you have food. Doesn't eat the snacks right away, she eats aloooootttt and drinks aloooootttt she's a chubby bunny. Doesn't like to run around like my silus.

"Those who wander aren't always lost"