Cat Introductions

[Coolcat]

Brigitte don't misunderstand Kathrin and Martin are great, every time I called them or emailed I got a response back. Yes at times they we're too busy to talk on the phone but they always got back to me by email at least. Just how they responded for what worked for their cats wasn't working for Sabriel, and didn't work for Neka when she had pica issues either. They are great people, and great breeders, but I just wanted more input. Also I kind of feel like I'd be bothering them now because Sabriel is a replacement kitty, they've already been so nice about the whole past situation that I didn't/don't really want to bother them further. Particularly since I'm now seeming to be headed in the right direction with Sabriel.

See she didnt want to pester breeder for every little question either....i rest my case

 

[Brandy DW]

No door gap, ill try a cat meeting again- ive pretty much excepted ill have 2 Repunsel cats.Ill have the wife call as im basicly jaded on this whole deal.

Coolcat granted I don't know you and I'm trying really hard not to judge particularly since I haven't read all of your posts. But of the posts I have read, you do seem jaded and negative... and like you're unwilling to try. I know you wanted everything to go smoothly from the get go but things don't always happen like that. Just try what Arden is suggesting, it seems like a great idea, even if they can't play with each other under the door they can get used to each other through the door and their pet beds. You can also try the cloth rubbing it on there cheeks/fur and then rubbing that scent through out the house so that your bengal gets used to your sv and your sv get's used to your bengal. Thing's aren't perfect, life's not perfect, but you still plenty of options open to you for introducing your three cat's, maybe if your attitude changed to something more positive/hopeful your cat's would pick up that vibe and things could go better? Just saying in my honest opinion and truly not trying to offend you..

 

[Brandy DW]

See she didnt want to pester breeder for every little question either....i rest my case

I did ask them questions, they gave responses that didn't work for my individual cat. I didn't say I didn't ask them anything. So your case is slightly flawed..

 

[Coolcat]

I would not try a face to face meeting until you have given them time to reacclimate. Just let them get accustomed to each other through the CLOSED door. Feed her on the opposite side of the door from him and play with her there. You will have to take baby steps to get them to like each other. BUT, while he is still in quarantine, take this time to have him neutered. He may be starting to get his hormones and your Bengal girl may be smelling the change in his odor. This could be what is setting her off. AND, if he is starting to get his horones, he might be trying to "practice" his breeding technique on her, which she would obviuosly resent, since shme has been spayed and is not in heat. So, get him neutered ASAP!

Now that makes sence-practiceing his breeding technique...........not one other breeder even thought of that.Now see why i speak highly of you/your wise and you dont talk down to people........if you can sway me your good and you are good.This board could use some more Arden.

 

[Trish Allearz]

Brigitte don't misunderstand Kathrin and Martin are great, every time I called them or emailed I got a response back. Yes at times they we're too busy to talk on the phone but they always got back to me by email at least. Just how they responded for what worked for their cats wasn't working for Sabriel, and didn't work for Neka when she had pica issues either. They are great people, and great breeders, but I just wanted more input. Also I kind of feel like I'd be bothering them now because Sabriel is a replacement kitty, they've already been so nice about the whole past situation that I didn't/don't really want to bother them further. Particularly since I'm now seeming to be headed in the right direction with Sabriel.

Cats are individuals- as you seem to realize so you are right, we can only give recommendations from our standpoint and what we know/have seen. Some of us have seen more then others, some of us have worked with cats longer then others, but in the end- we all want what's best for our babies- just like you guys do

As long as your breeder is ethical and responsible, NEVER think you are bothering them asking a question. Sometimes, you are right- it's easier to look for others for quick advice, but sometimes, it is best to go to the source. Particularly when the baby is still very new to your household- then I'd definitely talk to your breeder and see what they suggest for different things

I'd much rather an owner come to me with questions then have too much time pass in a difficult situation and have that situation grow more difficult as time passes. I'm positive everyone else here feels the same. WE want YOU to be happy and WE want YOUR KITTY to be happy. Same thing all around :D

 

[Trish Allearz]

Now that makes sence-practiceing his breeding technique...........not one other breeder even thought of that.Now see why i speak highly of you/your wise and you dont talk down to people........if you can sway me your good and you are good.This board could use some more Arden.

Or perhaps Arden knew he wasn't fixed because he's her kitten and therefore, she has valid wonderful advice as his breeder knowing every pertinent detail there is to know about her kittens?

I wonder why we all recommended you talk to her in the first place?

 

[Coolcat]

Coolcat granted I don't know you and I'm trying really hard not to judge particularly since I haven't read all of your posts. But of the posts I have read, you do seem jaded and negative... and like you're unwilling to try. I know you wanted everything to go smoothly from the get go but things don't always happen like that. Just try what Arden is suggesting, it seems like a great idea, even if they can't play with each other under the door they can get used to each other through the door and their pet beds. You can also try the cloth rubbing it on there cheeks/fur and then rubbing that scent through out the house so that your bengal gets used to your sv and your sv get's used to your bengal. Thing's aren't perfect, life's not perfect, but you still plenty of options open to you for introducing your three cat's, maybe if your attitude changed to something more positive/hopeful your cat's would pick up that vibe and things could go better? Just saying in my honest opinion and truly not trying to offend you..

Your right you dont know me and shouldnt judge that being said hes been sleeping on her bed 3 days she has his blanket.But really the talk of sometimes takeing a year .....to me is not worth it yea i know negative.

 

[admin]

Or perhaps Arden knew he wasn't fixed because he's her kitten and therefore, she has valid wonderful advice as his breeder knowing every pertinent detail there is to know about her kittens?

I wonder why we all recommended you talk to her in the first place?

Great response, Trish! I was going to say the same thing...no one knows their kitten better then the person who raised him/her...

 

[Camelottaspots]

Or perhaps Arden knew he wasn't fixed because he's her kitten and therefore, she has valid wonderful advice as his breeder knowing every pertinent detail there is to know about her kittens?

I wonder why we all recommended you talk to her in the first place?

Trish, I only knew Triton has not been fixed because when I spoke with Mrs. CC last week, she mentioned that Mr. CC was nervous about having Triton neutered because of the difficluty his brother had (that was posted on this forum). And, I am not sayng that this s, for certain the issue with this pair of cats. However, boys will be boys and when the hormones start coming in, they will practice on any cat in the vacinity (male or female). However, I know from experience that spayed females, in particular, do not appreciate that kind of "attention" from their new playmates.

 

[Camelottaspots]

Cats are individuals- as you seem to realize so you are right, we can only give recommendations from our standpoint and what we know/have seen. Some of us have seen more then others, some of us have worked with cats longer then others, but in the end- we all want what's best for our babies- just like you guys do

As long as your breeder is ethical and responsible, NEVER think you are bothering them asking a question. Sometimes, you are right- it's easier to look for others for quick advice, but sometimes, it is best to go to the source. Particularly when the baby is still very new to your household- then I'd definitely talk to your breeder and see what they suggest for different things

I'd much rather an owner come to me with questions then have too much time pass in a difficult situation and have that situation grow more difficult as time passes. I'm positive everyone else here feels the same. WE want YOU to be happy and WE want YOUR KITTY to be happy. Same thing all around :D

The thing that interests me, Trish, is why people feel they are "bothering" their breeder woth these sorts of issues. If it is not a bother to the people on the forum, which includes many breeders, why would it be a bother to the breeder of the specific kitten? I mean, here I am, repsonding to these posts, so obviosuly, this is not a "bother" to me. But, I would much rather have had these conversations early on in the gane, so that we could avoid the stress for both the cats and their owner.