Cat's toy's after a cat's gone...

[NikkiA]

Brandy, I am so sorry you feel judged.

All of us are trying to do the best for our kitties, and I for one don't think anyone feels you are trying to do anything other than give her the love she needs and understand her better.

Please keep in mind that all of our kitties have different needs, and all of us have different ways of trying to give them the love they need.

 

[admin]

No need to be sorry

 

[Brigitte Cowell]

It's possible it's how I read it - but I haven't read enough of Brigitte's posts to know for sure. Sorry..

Well there are nearly 2,000 of my posts on this forum alone to read to make your judgement I suppose!

I spend most of my day trying to help people, Rescue is a long and arduous job as Paige has been learning... and what I do I do to HELP, not judge. If you take it as something negative, then I have also learned there is little I can do about that other than shut up and leave you alone.

Best of luck with Sabriel and I hope all turns out great for you both!

 

[Trish Allearz]

Not that she needs spoken up for, but B is a wonderful resource, Brandy. I think we sometimes read more things into the written word- particularly when we do not know the person- then is intended.

I wouldn't be where I am today with Brigitte's help. She's answered more then one silly phone call from me in the past! With NO judgement!

 

[Brandy DW]

Well there are nearly 2,000 of my posts on this forum alone to read to make your judgement I suppose!

I spend most of my day trying to help people, Rescue is a long and arduous job as Paige has been learning... and what I do I do to HELP, not judge. If you take it as something negative, then I have also learned there is little I can do about that other than shut up and leave you alone.

Best of luck with Sabriel and I hope all turns out great for you both!

Brigitte I apologize. I've re-read what you wrote like 5 times and the first time reading it, and even the second time reading it - I thought you were being snide at the end with "(which as she is kept in only one room shouldn't be too hard) and make sure she has new ones..." between that comment and people in the other thread saying I should let her free roam I just took it badly. I do apologize. I realize everyone here is trying to help and wouldn't be here if they weren't either trying to help, trying to get help, or both. I'll try look at posts from all perspectives in the future.

 

[John Popp]

Brandy, I couldn't even imagine any of my other cats playing with my lost buddy Jester's fish. He repeatedly tossed it in the air and pounced on it all of his years and closed his eyes for the final time with it in his arms. I couldn't even imagine sharing it with the other cats and kitten, as it was truly his. He liked his fish so much that he had licked nearly ever bit of color from the fabric.

Anyway, the fish is off limits for the rest of them, and all the other toys I left as fair game. Perhaps a bit different circumstances, but with each of them there is a toy they thought was special and I'll do my best to make sure it's theirs forever.

 

[Brandy DW]

Yeah Neka's favorites were these kong toy things that were stuffed so that they were soft but also had catnip in them. She would switch between treating them like they were prey and cuddling with them. I swear I had to get a new one each month because of how much use they got, compared to the rest of her toys which I rarely had to replace because the wear and tear wasn't as bad. They don't sell the kong toys at petco anymore which I'm actually happy about because I don't know how I would feel about Sabriel playing with a different one of the same toy. Neka also liked the toy catnip mouses that Sabriel plays with but those aren't as bad for me, because she never really cuddled with those. I still have her last catnip mouse, which I keep separate but I've gotten Sabriel the same type and she loves them too... God how I wish our loved ones (pets and people) never had to leave us..

 

[Dantes]

The truth is that I still have toys from my very first cat, Squeaky (so named because when you called her, she would squeak lol). We didn't have much money when I was a kid, so almost all of her toys were handmade by me and/or my grandmother (allergic). I still have a salamander that Simba licked until its spots came off. I'm trying to keep it down to just a couple of keepsake toys per cat, but it's hard. If I see one of the new boys playing with another cat's toys, I'll usually let them have them, I figure toys should be enjoyed, not kept locked away in a box, and once it happens it does feel good to know that the newer babies have something of my past babies. Getting to that point, though, isn't easy. But ultimately, they're all just things, while the cats are living breathing proof that life does go on. (BTW, I don't think I'm over the death of my baby boy Simba yet, and I'm not sure I ever will be. Maybe I don't ever have to be.)

 

[Kristin]

I don't think you ever really get over it. I fostered a crazy Border Collie for 6 months 3 years ago, she passed away a year and a half ago, and I still miss her. My bunny passed away 11 months ago and I still miss her too. But I love love love the animals that are in my life now, and can't imagine losing any of them (although one day I will......except for maybe some of the parrots )

 

[ambiente18]

Okay so maybe I have odd thinking here but maybe not. It's the way I feel and I'm going to express it and I'm interested in how other's feel.

When Neka had to be put down because of lymphoma, I was obviously crushed and I've kept all of her cat toys and her harness, along with pics and video's obviously. Anyway when I got Sabriel a month later I didn't really have her use any of Neka's toys, I got her new one's and have kept Neka's toys in a bag in a box downstairs. Her two favorite toys and her harness I have with a picture of her on my wall (the toy's and harness are on a small shelf). Her other toys, aside from a squirrel that I gave to Sabriel to play with I more or less kept separate and didn't think that Sabriel could get them until she did tonight...

When I saw her playing with it, at first I was like how in the world did she get it. I didn't say anything, I didn't take it from her, I let her keep the toy she got and I'll let her continue to play with it - as she's played with that one more just tonight than Neka ever did. But with the other toys do I give them to Sabriel? Seeing them out makes me think of Neka more and more, and how things could have been if she didn't get sick. But hell it's been like 7 months now, I need to get over it already. Unfortunately my brain and my heart don't seem to be communicating on that factor.

Anyway with you guys - when a pet has passed did you share it's toys with your next pet? Sabriel does btw have Neka's old cat tree's and such, just not her toys... Maybe I'm odd to feel the way I do but it would be nice to know that maybe someone else felt the same way?...

I understand you perfectly I understand your feelings