Hi Marilyn:
So I have a couple questions, actually and I apologize for the length! I have 1 and a half year old F5 neutered male SV, Gilliam, and a 10 year old unknown generation neutered male Chausie, Kubrick. They get along fairly well - but not great. Gilliam will groom Kubrick, which Kubrick seems to enjoy - but Kubrick never grooms Gilliam. They will sometimes curl up next to each other, pressed against each other - but never totally together. They play together - but fairly often it turns into true wrestling, roughhousing and both are so powerful....no major injuries yet, but Kubrick gets pretty upset sometimes. Perhaps as a result, Kubrick started mounting Gilliam a few months ago. He only does it when we go outside to the back porch (the door is glass and they can see us). Gilliam will run up to the door and watch us, sometimes howl, through the glass - Kubrick will come up from behind, making this awful wailing noise, and mount Gilliam. We've tried spraying him with water but it does not matter one bit. What to do? Why does he do this? Is it a dominance thing?
Also - both cats are exceedingly needy and demanding. Gilliam has to follow me absolutely everywhere. If he can't be where I am, he howls. If I shut any door between us, he howls. If I don't pay him enough attention, he howls. It doesn't bug me all that much but it drives my husband batty as he has got a MOUTH on him. Kubrick used to really beg for my husband's attention, but over time has shifted to demanding mine, as well - almost like a jealous reaction to how much time I spend with Gilliam. So now he's very needy too - though not as much as Gilliam. But if I pet Gilliam, I have to pet Kubrick. If Gilliam is laying on the bed, Kubrick has to be on the bed too. I'm just not used to it - because before Gilliam we had a DSH, Java, who was "my" cat whereas Kubrick was my husband's cat. Now neither want anything to do with my husband and are competing for my attention which is getting frustrating! What can I do about the neediness? Anything?
Thanks!!!
Angelic
So I have a couple questions, actually and I apologize for the length! I have 1 and a half year old F5 neutered male SV, Gilliam, and a 10 year old unknown generation neutered male Chausie, Kubrick. They get along fairly well - but not great. Gilliam will groom Kubrick, which Kubrick seems to enjoy - but Kubrick never grooms Gilliam. They will sometimes curl up next to each other, pressed against each other - but never totally together. They play together - but fairly often it turns into true wrestling, roughhousing and both are so powerful....no major injuries yet, but Kubrick gets pretty upset sometimes. Perhaps as a result, Kubrick started mounting Gilliam a few months ago. He only does it when we go outside to the back porch (the door is glass and they can see us). Gilliam will run up to the door and watch us, sometimes howl, through the glass - Kubrick will come up from behind, making this awful wailing noise, and mount Gilliam. We've tried spraying him with water but it does not matter one bit. What to do? Why does he do this? Is it a dominance thing?
Also - both cats are exceedingly needy and demanding. Gilliam has to follow me absolutely everywhere. If he can't be where I am, he howls. If I shut any door between us, he howls. If I don't pay him enough attention, he howls. It doesn't bug me all that much but it drives my husband batty as he has got a MOUTH on him. Kubrick used to really beg for my husband's attention, but over time has shifted to demanding mine, as well - almost like a jealous reaction to how much time I spend with Gilliam. So now he's very needy too - though not as much as Gilliam. But if I pet Gilliam, I have to pet Kubrick. If Gilliam is laying on the bed, Kubrick has to be on the bed too. I'm just not used to it - because before Gilliam we had a DSH, Java, who was "my" cat whereas Kubrick was my husband's cat. Now neither want anything to do with my husband and are competing for my attention which is getting frustrating! What can I do about the neediness? Anything?
Thanks!!!
Angelic