Update on Stark!

[ambro]

Hang in there. We got Jax back in August and he was very skidish. We had him in our room for 3 weeks and he probably could have used another. When we let him out around the other 2 cats , he spent 2 days behind the couch! He is just now coming to me and is becoming more lovable. He doesn't like to sit on our laps or be held but he does like to be pet and gives head butts. Sleeps with us every night and if we shut him out he has a MAJOR FIT! I see a lot of the same things with your baby. Just have patience and he'll come around as he gets more comfortable.

 

[NikkiA]

Hang in there. It took many months for our F3 boy, Jarvis, to bond with me but the wait was more than worth the trust he now has. Take it slow and let him come to you. As Deb said, don't try to force him- that was a big mistake I made- he will come around.
Jarvis turns 3 this month, and now reliably comes when called, snuggles every night, and all around makes a pest of himself in his desire to be the center of our attention

 

[John Popp]

I'd consider yourself very fortunate Kim, as for every cat I've had to spend a lot of time correcting or adapting to behaviors, the closer of a bond I ended up with. My boys Jester and Kebu were at totally different ends of the spectrum, one who needed constant attention around the clock or he started breaking things and his brother I needed to spend hours trying to find where he was hiding, always convinced he had escaped.

Just remember nothing great ever came easy and your patience will pay huge dividends.

 

[SV Dad]

Yeah, like all the others are saying. Hang in there. You will absolutely be rewarded with a very special and unique experience. My F3 boys are not lap cats, but on some occasions one will take a nap on the sofa next to my wife and the other will take a small nap on her lap. But they each have their way of letting her know she is special to them. Discovering the personality traits takes time. There is a reason why so many of us have herds of savannahs.

 

[Carykd7kau]

My little Kilif is a flirt. She tries to get me to reach for her...then she darts away. Regie likes to be left alone. Rather come to me for love. Azidi loves for me to coax her into letting me pet her. Then she is a love bug. JUST NO HOLDING!!! LOL
They all have different likes and dislikes and personalities.

 

[KIM]

Hang in there. We got Jax back in August and he was very skidish. We had him in our room for 3 weeks and he probably could have used another. When we let him out around the other 2 cats , he spent 2 days behind the couch! He is just now coming to me and is becoming more lovable. He doesn't like to sit on our laps or be held but he does like to be pet and gives head butts. Sleeps with us every night and if we shut him out he has a MAJOR FIT! I see a lot of the same things with your baby. Just have patience and he'll come around as he gets more comfortable.

Its nice to hear from other people that are experiencing things. Stark is really sweet, doesnt bite or attempt to scratch, and he is definitely getting better. its been 2 weeks today. We are taking our cues from him. When he is in his bed and hes asleep, you can pet him and talk to him and he loves it. So we try and talk to him quietly and show him love. He is starting to eat in front of us, never did that before, will take food from my hands, and is playing more. But hes still not there, I can tell. So when you say skittish, did your baby, run and hide or not let you touch him?

 

[KIM]

Thank you all. I love him dearly and of course I cant wait for the cuddles and for when he sleeps near me, but I know it will take time but I know Im going to end up with an amazing baby in the end...after all he is already amazing!

 

[ambro]

Just keep up what your doing. Jax was just like that. The thought crossed our minds "what have we done". They all have different personalitys. Just keep playing with him and just being around him. It will be slow so have patience. You are doing just fine! He will come around.

 

[KIM]

Thats exactly what we are doing. Just going with the flow, and hes warming up. I starting questioning myself too, thinking is it me lol. But hes just a shy boy, but its ok. He will be fine, I know he will!