Help me with my Sbt Savannah. Please?

[Brandy DW]

Right now I would just like to continue working on my and Sabriel's relationship and get that stronger. I want her to trust in my implicitly before I bring another cat in and turn her world upside down. Not to mention if I bring another cat in I would a) have to get said cat to like and trust me and b) make sure that the cat got on well with Sabriel. --- I don't ever wanna be in a position where I would grow attached to a new cat only for it not to work out with Sabriel and then I'd have to send the new cat back.. There are just so many scenario's and I'm still wary of something going wrong. I'll feel much better when Sabriel is over 2, as usually if something's going to go wrong it'll happen before they're 2 or when they're old. Granted that's not always the case and I know it's not likely that something will go wrong again but yeah. I'm just anxious. I'm not ready for another cat!

 

[Dantes]

If you're not ready for another cat, then for sure you're doing the right thing by not getting another cat!

But as a for instance, I had problems bonding with my Ragdoll. I spent well over a year trying to bond with Dante, knocked myself over backwards for him. Finally I decided to "give up" so to speak and got Duma. Dante LOOOOOVES Duma. And this morning, after 2 years, Dante snuggled with me for the first time.

 

[admin]

If you're not ready for another cat, then for sure you're doing the right thing by not getting another cat!

But as a for instance, I had problems bonding with my Ragdoll. I spent well over a year trying to bond with Dante, knocked myself over backwards for him. Finally I decided to "give up" so to speak and got Duma. Dante LOOOOOVES Duma. And this morning, after 2 years, Dante snuggled with me for the first time.

That's awesome news!!!

 

[Dantes]

That's awesome news!!!

for all of 7 minutes, but I'll take it lol

 

[admin]

for all of 7 minutes, but I'll take it lol

Taj is my only snuggler - and sometimes Zuri...and Taj weighs about 15 pounds and plops down on my chest...but he doesn't do it for long either...just long enough for me to hug him and hold him for a bit...but as you say, I'll take it.

Ixas and Cinny surprisingly don't snuggle, but I think it is because they have each other...they were born here and raised here with lots of love and holding and hugging and kissing, but as they grew older, they kicked me to the curb Now don't get me wrong..I can pick them up and hold them and they put up with me hugging and kissing them, but then it's time to go play and look for Mom...kittens will be kittens and they change as they get older...

 

[Brandy DW]

Hopefully as they get older they'll be more interested in snuggling with us humans

 

[Dantes]

re: snuggling, maybe I should clarify. Dante would not let me pet him. At all. I could pick him up but only for a minute, and if I did it too long he would pee on my pillow by the next day. Only recently did he start sleeping on my bed (well, when I am in it, as he sleeps there fine when I'm gone lol). We call him Dante the Grouch, 'cause he is, well, a grouch on a good day.

I still can't really pet him but today he came and sat next to me on the bed, then started to play with Duma, even got under the covers next to me so the two of them could play "creature under the sheets." So that's what I mean by snuggle, he got near me lol He's also started brushing up against me from time to time, something he never did before.

Duma on the other hand will come over and sit on my lap for an hour or more. Although it does have to be on his terms, but that's what I'd expect.

 

[shelby]

If you take into consideration she is a cat...this is also normal. ANY CAT WILL EXHIBIT THIS BEHAVIOR. She is playing. You are going to make yourself sick ....trying to figure out when , where and why she does things;>) LOL Take a deep breath, relax and love that baby for what she is...A NORMAL...ENERGETIC BABY...that wants to fit in if you just scoot over and give her some room;>)

 

[Brandy DW]

So tonight playing with Sabriel - she only nibbled on my toe once, I said ouch and she backed off. Didn't do it again for the rest of the night. So happy with that.
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When I was sitting in my winged back chair, (it's very comfy!), I had my eyes closed because I am tired right now. I was making little clucking noises at her, trying to get her to come back and rub against my legs as she had been doing. Instead I get a surprise of her jumping up onto my chest, sniffing into my face and then jumping down again. I don't know if it's because I was clucking or because I had my eyes closed but it seemed to be her way of saying "mommy wake up! and watch me!"
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So every time I hold her now, which she lets me do fairly regularly now without protest. At the end I sometimes try to go over to the couch and sit down and try to get her to stay with me. Most times I just give some pets before she quickly jumps down. Well tonight I was a stupid human, who was trying to get her to what I wanted her to do. I know not the brightest or best thing ever. Anyway when I sat down I was trying to control her and keep her in my lap - thinking if I petted her enough she'd stay. I hadn't tried this before because before she was always a bit of a biter. Well she of course didn't stay, and now that I've tried it I won't be trying it again. Now my being a bad human aside, I can say that my Sabriel was really good! She didn't once try to bite me or put her claws out or anything. It was obvious she wanted to jump down and granted I only kept it up for about 30 seconds but still. I consider it great progress that she didn't go to biting or scratching when she couldn't immediately get away. Meaning if I ever do have kids, she hopefully won't bite or scratch them when they hold her too long.
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I'm amazed at how much a week's difference can make. Changing how I play with her has really helped!

 

[Patti]

It is great to see her progress in each of your notes as you post updates!