Huge Dilemma... :(

[admin]

Talking to Marilyn is really the way to go here, unless you have decided you are definitely going to rehome Kronos, which it seems you have not...she is not expensive and it is money well spent.

I do often think the cats need to work it out, as Medesha kind of alluded to...I understand that Solo was there first, but you also made a commitment to Kronos when you bought him...so doing everything possible before making a decision would be my advice...

 

[Wyldthingz]

I know how frustrating it can be when they don't get a long. I hope Marilyn can help you here. It is not right to disrupt the whole household to keep the peace. It is not right for Kronos to live in seclusion. Maybe it is because he is male, a female may be more acceptable?? How old was Solo when you got the kitten?

 

[Kronos]

I know how frustrating it can be when they don't get a long. I hope Marilyn can help you here. It is not right to disrupt the whole household to keep the peace. It is not right for Kronos to live in seclusion. Maybe it is because he is male, a female may be more acceptable?? How old was Solo when you got the kitten?

Solo was about 2.5 years old when Kronos came home.

 

[admin]

Probably a female would be worse and it doesn't really sound like that is the issue, although I could be wrong...but I do agree that none of this is fair...and marilyn can probably help and guide through the situation...

 

[Kronos]

I feel really terrible about the whole situation, like if I had known it would have made Solo this unhappy I never would have gone through with it. I heard younger cats are more accepting to new comers but 2.5 is closer to adult I am thinking.

I still am going to try to work through it... maybe just put some tape or things under the doors so Solo can't damage the carpet, and give Kronos more free time. I don't want Solo to think I am siding with him in supporting his aggression.

 

[Dantes]

I wrote in my original post that I cannot confine Solo because he destroys things. I would have to confine him in the bathroom or somewhere without carpet... even still he shrieks and we have neighbors that complain

Wow, I didn't realize things were so bad with Solo This is really sad to hear.

 

[Medesha]

There's definitely an age thing going on here, but I would think that keeping them separate would only add to your troubles. They need to get used to seeing each other, not get comfy with the other one being gone, only for them to show up again.

Seeing as you say that they do get along at times, I really wouldn't worry so much, so long as there's no blood-shed. From what you've said, it seems that there's plenty of areas for the kitties to escape to if they've had enough of each other's company.

Solo and Kronos might not end up as cuddle-buddies, but they'll get pretty good at avoiding each other. That's probably not what you were hoping for when you got Kronos, but it's a better outcome than giving up a kitty you've come to care for. I wouldn't think any cats get along 100% of the time.

All the cats I've ever cared for heard this from me, "You guys better work it out 'cause this is where you go at night and there are 20 pound raccoons and possum outside and I don't have any other places to put you" and while there was definitely some hissing and warning slaps, there were never any injuries.

 

[admin]

I know you feel terrible, Alisha - can hear it in your posts...Cisco was 7 when I brought Taj home as a kitten...Taj just wanted to be near him, on top of him, biting him, etc. Cisco would hiss and run away...but eventually they worked it out...and then I added Zuri to the mix...Taj was not a happy camper for the first month or so and they still all box at each other every now and then. Cisco and Zuri are best buds...Taj and Zuri - not so much...Cisco chooses to spend more time in the bedroom on his cat tree, but in the past 6 months or so he has become a more outgoing, playful, loving cat - it only took 9 years for him to become this way and I have to credit the savannahs with not giving up on him

 

[Kronos]

So far there hasn't been injuries, but last night I think there may have been blood if I hadn't stepped in. I did really scold Solo however, I went as far as to scruff him pretty hard immediately and then he ran off and hid. I let Kronos stay out the rest of the night and things stayed peaceful, so I might just be too soft on Solo... after all, he was my very first pet all on my own, he is my baby. He probably senses that and knows he can get away with it...

I'm glad I posted my troubles, because to be honest, I had never given any thought that I was supporting or perhaps causing the behavior in Solo... I was always just trying to protect Kronos from getting hurt.

 

[Kronos]

but in the past 6 months or so he has become a more outgoing, playful, loving cat - it only took 9 years for him to become this way and I have to credit the savannahs with not giving up on him

I know even though he gets bullied, Kronos is still always trying to be friendly with Solo haha.