There are some things I am picking up on. It is easy to see that you loved Neka. You have to realize that each cat is an individual. Sabriel is not Neka..she is not going to act exactly the same. On the other hand I am not getting the feeling that Sabriel is getting the same attention that Neka might have gotten when she arrived. Sometimes we are afraid that something is going to go wrong...just as it did in the past. We tend to sometimes be overly protective due to getting attached and then losing yet another precious soul. My HO is that if you give Sabriel all the love and attention you can give...she is going to do the same in return. She needs for her mama to relax..and accept her for what she is. As long as you think you are doing all you can to make this work....chance are ...that is correct. On the other hand if you have doubts yourself...just try to figure out how to give her a little more freedom with the family. You can tell by the video...she just wants love and attention from her human mama. Don't look for all the things you think she is doing wrong...look for little things this precious baby is doing right. I do hope things turn around and everyone will be happy. Bless Sabriels sweet little soul. She has no idea she is doing anything wrong.
She's not doing anything wrong, I know that they are individual's. I'm not trying to get her to be Neka, I mean yes I wish she trusted me like Neka did but she does not have to act the same way for me to love her, I already love her.
As for the attention Sabriel is getting, I put in one of the posts that when I first got Sabriel in the middle of October, from then to December something I had skin irritation. With the new house, new cat, and just a lot of new things around I was trying to figure out if I was allergic to something. As it first occurred about a week after I got Sabriel my family was convinced it was her, and I was half wondering if it was her as well. So I mostly resorted to pole games with her and restricted myself from a lot of hands on time with her. I would pet her when she let me, but she wasn't big on my holding her then and even now she tolerates it but I don't think she likes to be held. Whereas when I first got Neka she loved to be held and she would allow me to place her on my lap sometimes and just pet her and she would purr and purr. So it was just easier to get Neka to trust me.
With Sabriel since January I've been trying to get more hands on but also not push her. A lot of times she's been really good.
She still has the play biting and sometimes real biting (but not making me bleed) issue that I'm trying to curb and preferably get rid of entirely. Neka NEVER bit, so I never had to train her not to. My old cat Spunky a Siamese I had for 17 years, never really bit either. So with Sabriel I've tried the saying "no" and saying "ouch" (while pretending like I'm really in pain, even though I'm not) and diverting her attention with toys. I think some of the issue is that at this point I don't trust her not to bite me, and she's picking up on that. So it's a work in progress.
And then I had a litter of seven kittens, kept two and Cisco gets along with all of them...all of my kitten buyers have either other cats or dogs and there is no problem with any of my kittens and their other pets...
